PRESENT TO ANOTHER’S PAIN

After my hip replacement surgery a few weeks ago, I have been reflecting on pain – not so much my own pain, for mine is the result of elective surgery that will soon lead to a pain-free life – but in sadness for two dear friends who are enduring worse pain, as well as uncertainty as to when relief will come. My pain is bearable and short-term; theirs is not.

I tried to write words of comfort, encouragement, and hope, to somehow ease their pain and bolster their peace and patience for this waiting time. But words were not coming–until I recognized how these two hurting friends demonstrated a most meaningful and helpful source of comfort: supportive companionship. Nancy has sent me notes of hope and joy, rarely mentioning her own pain. Kurt (along with Judy) came to visit and brought this soft blanket arrayed with uplifting words of assurance.

I once heard the quote, “Happiness shared is happiness doubled.” Today I believe that “Pain shared is pain diminished.” Though the actual pain may not be removed or reduced, a certain comfort comes from having someone who cares, who understands and longs to help, who is praying, who is lovingly holding us through our trial.

I am thankful for every person who has been present to another’s pain. Thank you, dear Jim and other friends, for helping me in this time. Thank you, dear readers, for your prayers and words of encouragement through my temporary discomfort. Never underestimate the power of your supportive companionship through your acts of kindness and words of care and concern. Knowing someone is journeying with us, sharing our burdens, helps us to take each next step toward healing.

And I am thankful for God’s vigil-keeping, gentle healing, and yes, supportive companionship for our pain. God provides sustenance for each moment, peace for the present, hope for the future, patience for the waiting, clarity for the confusion. In every struggle, we are being held by a loving power much greater than we can fathom.

May every hurting person cling to that.
May every caring person know that you are the visible reminders, the helpful companions who serve as God’s healing presence for all who are in pain. Thank you.

(Photo by Karen)